Photographer Haley Morris-Cafiero is a woman whose body exceeds the acceptable social limits for a female body in a viciously woman-hating society like the one we live in. Her new photography project documents the disgusted looks and/or nasty laughter she gets from the assholes around her.
Yep. Assholes. The kind I don’t allow on my blog. I’d be inviting you all to play a round of Spot the Misogyny with me right now, except the misogyny here is way too obvious. Oh noes! A fat lady in public! Gross!
If women had actual human status, nobody would care what any one of them happened to be shaped like.
I would bet most of these scowlers and sneerers think other people are prejudiced, but they themselves are kind and fair and treat everyone exactly the same!
Everyone says this about themselves, and everyone is a liar. Even the people who don’t laugh or sneer at fat people don’t treat conventionally unattractive people the same as they do people considered attractive. But no one admits it, because nobody wants to be seen as shallow, even though everybody is. We’ve all been conditioned to believe thin and symmetrical is good, thick and irregular is disgusting and a joke. But we don’t have to believe every bit of poison we absorb from a toxic culture. We do have to realize that it’s poison, though.
I’m not going to sugar-coat this for you. If you laugh at fat people or give them dirty looks, you are an asshole. You’re also a bigot, because fat-hating is a form of bigotry.
No, you don’t get to excuse yourself because OMG OBESITY EPIDEMIC WE’VE GOT TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT THE FATTIES IF WE HATE THEM HARD ENOUGH THEY WILL STOP BEING FAT AND WE’LL ALL BE SAVED FROM HAVING TO LOOK AT FAT PEOPLE. The media hammers on about this all day long. That media is supported by advertising from a billion dollar diet industry that wants to sell diet crap to as many sheeple as it can.
Maybe if you buy their crap you can avoid the burning rays of stigma landing on YOU.
Or, maybe if you realize how you’re being manipulated and start to resist the message, you can not only make your own life less nasty, you can make the space around you a little less poisonous.
Stop listening to anything that picks on any group of people that doesn’t happen to be rich white males* and makes you feel all relieved like hey, at least you’re not them. Whether they are fat people, hoarders, poor people, immigrants, whoever.
You want to believe they’re lazy scum because your sucky life feels like it sucks less if you have someone lower than you on the totem pole to shit all over. Not surprisingly, this contributes to the collective shit level of our society, which is fucking overwhelming by now. So stop it. Grow a soul. Learn to see the human spark that lives inside every body no matter what its size or shape.
Or get off my planet now.
*Who really run things, and like to deflect our anger away from them and at easy targets
Read the entire post at PetaPixel.com (don’t read the comments unless you have a strong stomach)
Haley has a website. It’s here. And I want to be her friend.
Hat tip to @Zeeblebum for the link.
You can leave comments below if you’re a non-asshole. As always, asshole comments will be deleted.