From a man who gets it:
While the vast majority of men abhor violence against women, those dissenting male voices are rarely heard in our public discourse outside of the “monster-rapist” narrative. Indeed, the agency of male perpetrators disappears from the discussion, discouraging male involvement and even knowledge of the prevalence and diversity of male violence against women. Even the term “violence against women” sounds like a standalone force of nature, with no subject, whereas “men’s violence against women” is used far less frequently.
While not attempting to broad-brush or essentialise the all too abstracted notion of “masculinity”, male invisibility in our discourse can be compounded by masculine posturing, various “bro-codes” of silence, and a belief, through the monster myth, in the intrinsic otherness of violent men.
…that is what feminism is.
Its goal is not “equality” (equality to what? Oppressors?) but the dismantling of the entire framework of oppression. The dismantling of that framework would also free men from the brutality of masculinity, but feminism doesn’t focus on that because it focuses on women.
Dismantling the framework of oppression would free everybody.