You’re not supposed to say you’re a “victim” because most people hate victims and rush to align themselves with those they perceive as powerful: the victimizers. Then they imitate the bullying behavior of those victimizers. Then they blame victims, so that they don’t have to feel any guilt over what they’ve done, or any empathy with those less fortunate than themselves.
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Yes! Telling a victim to ‘stop being a victim’ is the equivalent of telling a woman to un-rape herself and making it her fault when she doesn’t. It erases the role of the victimiser entirely.
Exactly. Thanks for your comment!
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